Thursday, 21 June 2007
One Look Is All That Is Required To Fall In Love..
First impressions are more important than ever and research has proven that it only takes a few minutes to predict whether a relationship is in the cards with those we meet for the first time, a recent study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships showed that the first few minutes of meeting someone has a huge influence on the course the relationship will ultimately take!!
So for all those who believe in “love at first sight” read on….
Love at first sight is an emotional condition whereby a person feels a romantic attraction for a stranger on the first encounter with the stranger. The stranger may or may not be aware that the other person has any such notion, and may not even be aware of the other person's presence (such as in a crowded place). Sometimes two people experience this phenomenon towards each other at the same time, usually when their eyes meet.
Psychologists say that love at first sight depends on our psychological state at the moment. In some case we won’t even notice those charming eyes in another they can make a lasting impression on as.
Also they say that it takes about 30 seconds to fall in love or precisely speaking to estimate whether the person is worth to fall in love with.
By the way psychologists claim that men fall in love first. Very many factors act in the situation of falling in love from the first sight. These are our ideals, intuition or “fast logic”, imagination etc.
When you fall in love at the first sight you are usually ready and willing to fall in love. Less possibility that it will happen if you are tired, stressed, solving problems in you mind. But if you suddenly fall in love with quiet unknown person and see that it’s mutual that may mean even that mother-nature has chosen a partner that genetically suits you a lot.
There are a few must-dos if you really want to make that lasting impression,
Ditch the chat up linesIt can take between 90 seconds and 4 minutes to decide if we fancy someone. But this has little to do with your smooth-talking. As far as attraction goes, here's how we get the message:
55% is through body language
38% is the tone and speed of our voice
only 7% is through what we say
Stare into each others' eyes
In an experiment conducted it has been shown that the simple act of staring into each other's eyes has a powerful impact. Two complete strangers were asked to reveal to each other intimate details about their lives. This carried on for an hour and a half. The two strangers were then made to stare into each others eyes without talking for four minutes. Afterwards many of the couples confessed to feeling deeply attracted to their opposite number and two of his subjects even married afterwards.
Match their moves
When people are attracted to each other, they tend to sit or stand in the same way and copy each other's physical gestures. This is known as 'mirroring'.
Be dangerous
Another experiment showed that if people experience fear on a date they often misinterpret that feeling as love. So dates at a theme park are likely to be successful. A bungee jump might seal your relationship for life!
In fact, people who both like the same level of thrills and excitement are more likely to be compatible.
And what does it take to make the heart skip a beat??
For women who want to create an on-the-spot thrill, wearing red is the way to go. According to colour experts, red is the most stimulating colour you can wear. In fact, wearing or seeing red actually increases blood flow, and mimics attraction. If you're a guy, your best bet is to go true blue, women are attracted to men wearing the colour blue, guys who frequently wear blue are "stable, faithful and always there." The blue guy is perfect for a serious relationship: he's reliable, faithful and can match his own clothes.
Smile.
Psychology and body language experts agree that smiling is one of the fastest and best ways to make you more attractive and approachable.
Instant Chemistry.
A study at the University of Chicago has shown that men associate the scents of cinnamon and vanilla with love. To kick-start your allure, women can wear a cinnamon-vanilla scented lotion or perfume. The food-love connection continues: Women, according to the study, are drawn to a black liquorice scent. So, keep some liquorice in your shirt pocket if you don’t want to miss out on a chance
But some of the key questions still remain….
Why do we fall in love? Can humans really experience love at first sight? Why do we prefer one person over another?
And the answer is: “it all lies in the brain”
Woman of all species like testosterone. Strong jaws in men. On one side we have dopamine which acts as “cupid’s arrow” and on the other we have serotonin which acts the other way around. Dopamine level goes up in romantic love. Serotonin suppresses dopamine circuit which jeopardizes the ability to fall in love.
Men have more brain activity in regions associated with integration of visual stimuli. Men care about visuals. Women have more brain activity in brain areas associated with memory recall. Thought is a woman has to remember if a man is good mate, she can't just look at a man and know. She has to remember if he did what he promised as a way to size men up.
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